In my life there have been several times that I have had to look around and evaluate who I was friends with and what I was allowing into my life. I remember a time when I was 18 and was living on my own in a rental house with a roommate. I remember coming home one day to a huge “aha moment” that this person was not good to have in my life anymore. That led to her moving out and us no longer being friends. But in life there isn’t always this red blinking light that says run the other way from people that will take you down with them.
We all love to have friends in our lives that we have things in common with, that we enjoy being around and that we can be ourselves around. We are called to live life together and love one anther. But in our day to day with our friends, how does that look? Are you getting so wrapped up in your friendship with this person that you can’t see that they bring out the worst in you? Are you acting the way God has called you to be when you are with them? When you seek their advice are they giving you truth in God’s word?
I’m not saying that we can’t invest our time with people that are not these things. We are told by God to lift people up and tell them about Him. I’m talking about your friends that are Christians that never have anything positive to add, that tell you how right you are in your anger or encourage you to stay in your sin because it is “justifiable”.
I know that my story is a little harsh, that I didn’t stay friends with that person. I’m not saying that you can’t remain friends with people that bring you down or that do not speak truth into your life. That friendship can change and have Christ brought into it if you and your friend are wiling to make the effort.
I am challenging you all to evaluate each one of your friendships and really ask if it’s pleasing to God. And yes, there are those friendships that can’t be saved. They are too toxic to have and it is time to let them go.
Proverbs 13:20 ESV
Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
Ephesians 4:29 ESV
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Matthew 15:18 ESV
But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.