Whitney Sledz • Media Director • whitney@thevinecc.tv

Whitney Sledz • Media Director • whitney@thevinecc.tv

What does the Bible say about a divorced person getting married for a second time?

The Bible is very clear about divorce and this may make some people mad but these are God’s words, not mine and sometimes the truth hurts. So, here we go.

Matthew 5:31-32 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Mark 10:2-12 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

“What did Moses command you?” he replied.

They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.”

“It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied.

“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’

‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,  and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this.

He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”

Luke 16:18 “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

1 Corinthians 7:10-16 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife. To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Malachi 2:16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.

Matthew 19:8-9 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

I think this is pretty black & white.

So, you might say, “but Jesus said, if a man looks on a woman lustfully, then he commits adultery in his heart.”

Yes, he did. But Christ is the church’s groom, we (his bride), as sinful beings, commit adultery against God often by putting someone or something else above Him. We give that intimate place that is reserved for God over to something else and He continues to pursue us. God doesn’t hand us a certificate of divorce, He loves us through it. Jesus was calling us to be pure in our heart because sin in our heart leads to sin physically.


If my son asked Jesus into his heart when he was 6 and does not live for Jesus now, is he still saved?

The truth is, no one can say whether or not your son is saved because no one truly knows his heart. Only he and God know the answer to this question.

Romans 10:9-11 says, “because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved. For the Scripture says, “Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame.”

If you truly believe and confess, then you are saved. When we accept Christ, something in our hearts and lives changes and, because we love God, we desire to be obedient and do His will.

James 2:14-17 “ What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.”

God has given us free will. We can choose to believe and follow Him but we can also choose to walk away from that salvation. Faith without works is dead and works without faith is dead. If he is truly saved, I believe you will see it in his daily life. I would encourage you to pray for him and hold fast to proverbs 22:6, which says “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”


Tyler Hicks • Family Pastor • tyler@thevinecc.tv

Tyler Hicks • Family Pastor • tyler@thevinecc.tv

Can you lose your salvation?

The short answer is no.  But the question could also be, “was I really saved to begin with?” Here is short answer from one of my favorite preachers, John Piper. I think it’s really helpful:


Did God love Judas?

Yes. He spent over three years with Judas. He washed Judas’s feet. I wouldn’t do that unless I loved someone. I just read this article on Judas and Jesus, and there is more than enough here to think about. I think you’ll get a lot out of it!