Why are Christians so judgmental and hurtful to other Christians (persecute those who stumble and fall)? It has been said: Christians are the only army that shoot their wounded.
First off, we always need to be reminded that we are all sinners. Christians, like other people, judge others. It’s human nature. And a lot of times, we give in to our human nature too easily. In the church, we are all just a bunch of broken people coming together. We are all a work in progress, striving to grow in Holiness.
If you are following Jesus, you need accountability in your life. Accountability isn’t always easy. It SUCKS when you are called out on your sin. We are prideful and emotional people, so immediately we jump to feeling judged. We have to realize that this isn’t a Christian judging us, this is another believer acknowledging sin for what it is and wanting us free from it. When we confront others about sin in their lives, we have to follow Jesus’ example of truth, love, humility, and most of all grace.
“All scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of god may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” - 2 Timothy 3:16-17
“Preach the word; be ready in season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching.” - 2 Timothy 4:2
“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any sin, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” - Galatians 6:1
I have several people in my life who hold me accountable, one being my husband. I’m so thankful that I have a husband who calls me out on my sin. Most days, it’s easy for me to get my feelings hurt and get defensive, but when I am reminded of God’s character and see those qualities in my husband's approach, I see that he just wants the best for me.
We need to do the same with each other in the church. As Christians, we want other Christians to walk in obedience; we want the best for each other. But we have to remember that we are not always going to approach every situation perfectly just because we are Christians. If there has been someone that has hurt you in the church, forgive them. You can’t fix other people, but can you can work on you. Grow in truth, love, humility and grace.
When do I get baptized?
I think it’s very important to first understand what baptism is. Just as Jesus died for our sins, was buried and rose to life again three days later, baptism symbolizes one’s death to sin, burial of the old life and resurrection of the new life in Christ. Baptism does not save you. Jesus is the only Savior. Second, you need to understand what it means to accept Christ as your Lord and Savior. We use The Gospel: God’s plan for me every week in VineKids. It breaks it down simply.
1. God rules- God created everything. Colossians 1:16-17, Revelation 4:11
2. We sinned- Since the time of Adam and Eve, everyone has chosen to disobey God. This sin separates us from God and deserves punishment. Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23
3. God provided- God sent His Son Jesus, the perfect solution to our sin problem, to rescue us from the punishment we deserve. Jesus alone saves us. John 3:16, Ephesians 2:8-9
4. Jesus gives- Jesus lived a perfect life, died on the cross for our sins and rose again. This is the best gift ever! Romans 5:8, 2 Corinthians 5:21
5. We respond
· Admit to God that you are a sinner.
· Believe that Jesus is God’s Son and accept God’s gift of forgiveness from sin only through Jesus dying on the cross.
· Confess your faith in Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. Tell God and others what you believe.
Once you fully understand and make the decision to follow Jesus, Baptism is the outward expression of your decision. This is the first step of obedience after you place for your full trust in Christ.
“And now what are you waiting for? Get up, be baptized and wash your sins away, calling on his name.” - Acts 22:16
“Therefor go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” - Matthew 28:19-20
“What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life. For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we will certainly also be united with him in a resurrection like his. For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin— because anyone who has died has been set free from sin. Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again; death no longer has mastery over him. The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God. In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness. For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace. What then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? By no means! Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey—whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness? But thanks be to God that, though you used to be slaves to sin, you have come to obey from your heart the pattern of teaching that has now claimed your allegiance. You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness.” - Romans 6:1-18