Tyler Hicks • Family Pastor • tyler@thevinecc.tv

Tyler Hicks • Family Pastor • tyler@thevinecc.tv

As a staff, we are reading the book, “I Am A Church Member” and blogging about a chapter each time. This week, I’m discussing chapter 3: I Will Not Let My Church Be about My Preferences and Desires.  


This chapter is very challenging. I’m praying that I will have more of a servant attitude in every area that God places me at The Vine.  


Thom Rhainer states, “The strange thing about church membership is that you actually give up your preferences when you join. Don’t get me wrong; there may be much about your church that you like  a lot.  But you are there to meet the needs of others. You are there to serve others. You are there to give. You are there to sacrifice. Get the picture?”


I think alot of times we think church is all about us. We go on Sundays to get served, to get fed, to hear a sermon, to hear good music, to have someone watch our kids, to get donuts and coffee. I could go on…do we have an attitude of entitlement at church?


We need to ask God to do a number on us so that we understand what it means to be a part of the church. Jesus came to serve and give His life as a ransom for many. He has brought us to The Vine to serve and love others. What would be different if we started to act like we played a vital role in this church? What would happen if we stopped critiquing and wishing that some things were more the way we wanted them and instead, we got involved and served and helped make each ministry be the best it could be. What if we worked to make things better instead of talking about what we wished was better.  


I think that if we did that, we would not only be biblical church members, we would also gain more friends. When you serve along side others, you get to know them and begin to care about them and build strong bonds. We would end up getting what we all long for: community. We would be better for it and the people in our church would be the better for it. Not to mention…we would be more like Jesus.


Philippians 2:5-11

    [5] Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, [6] who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, [7] but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. [8] And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. [9] Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, [10] so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, [11] and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.


Rhainer says, “That’s our example to follow. We are to be servants. We are to be obedient. We are to put others first. We are to do whatever it takes to keep the unity in our church.”


I oversee our children’s ministry at The Vine and we are striving to get more people serving in this ministry! So, if you’re looking to get involved and want to serve all these young families, I would challenge you to shoot for serving once every other month…or more! I promise you won’t regret it and you’ll probably walk away with some friends. For sure, you will be appreciated.


This is a great little challenging book. If you’re reading this, check it out on Amazon, buy it and read it. It’s cheap and worth every penny!

- Tyler