Okay. So, you’ve been there. I’ve been there. When you were a kid and you wanted that new toy and didn’t get it. When you were a teenager and wanted to go to that party but weren’t allowed. When you are an adult and want that position and someone else is promoted.
So, have you? Are you there now?
I have. We will be again.
My youngest son, Timmy, (age 3) loves jumping. Big surprise right?! Jumping on the bed, jumping down the hall, jumping off the couch…you get the idea. We have instructed him numerous times, “don’t jump on the bed! Stop jumping off the couch! Timothy!”
We tell him these things for obvious reasons, all for his good, from our love. He could get hurt. Yet, he doesn’t understand. All he knows is the fun and joy he feels while he is doing it. He, being so little, is not mature enough nor even possesses the cognitive thinking required to think ahead to the various outcomes of his actions. For example, a broken leg, broken arm or a head injury. We as parents see this because we have matured in our understanding. We love him and want to protect him, not take from him.
This became clearer to him just a few days ago. He came into my room and began jumping on my bed. I began to dialogue with him, “Timmy, what has mommy and daddy…” I couldn’t finish my statement before his knees buckled and he began to cry. He had hyper extended his little right knee. After that, he couldn’t walk for a couple of hours. He needed carried or he would simply crawl from one side of the room to the other to play. (He is better now.)
Maybe you are instructing little ones, maybe its teenagers, grandchildren, students. When you say “no” it is for their good, from your love. When you say “wait” it is for their good, from your love. When you say “yes” It is for their good, from your love. Right?
Our Heavenly Father is the same, yet perfect in His love. His Word in Matthew 7:9-11 says; 9 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
If we have met Jesus and He has saved us, we are His children whom He loves. He wants good things for us. Now, please don’t confuse “our good” with “happiness, perfection, comfort or lack of difficulty and suffering.”
The Bible says,
10 For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. 11 No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. Hebrews 12:5-11
What I am saying is this: when we want something and God says “no,” it is for our good, from His love. When God says “wait,” it is for our good, from His love. When God says “yes,” it is for our good, from His love. He loves us and wants to protect us, not take from us.
This isn’t an easy thing to accept. We believe we know what is best for our lives based on “our“ understanding and what we think will bring us the feeling of most joy. Based on what we know, what we can see, what we can do, what we feel. How do we navigate this kind of difficulty? Feeling vs. truth. Seen vs. the unseen. Now vs. eternity.
We must trust. Trust the God who is timeless. Trust the God who is eternal. Trust the God who is unchanging. Trust the God who sees all. Trust the Word of God that is inerrant. Trust the God whose ways are not our ways. Trust what you know to be true of Him, not what you feel at the time. Trust the Father that calls us son or daughter. Trust Him because, 28 “we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”Romans 8:28
Let us humbly reply as Eli replied to Samuel after he had received a vision. “It is the Lord; let Him do what seems good to Him.”
If He says, no, wait or yes, it is for our good, from His love.
And ALL, for His glory. He is Lord.