“Hi, how are you?”
The quintessential greeting.
The quintessential response.
Not the truthful one, the normal one. We say we’re good but, deep down, we’re going through something, we’re hurting, we’ve lost hope, we’re giving up!
Why do we do this to ourselves and others? Why don’t we just say how we’re feeling? And, if we’re the one asking, why don’t we care enough to really hear what’s going on?
I am definitely guilty of both. I am not one to share my life with anyone or ask anyone about theirs.
I have a music playlist on my phone called “Walmart” and when I have to go there, I pop my headphones in and avoid eye contact so I don’t have to talk to anyone. I talked to someone not too long ago and invited them to hang out sometime. They’re response was “oh, but you’re just so busy.” So, this, if I’m honest, is no one’s fault but my own.
Something’s got to change! This whole, leave me alone, let me be in my own little world, let me stare at my phone, play my video game, read my book, watch my show mentality has got to stop! (And, I’m preaching to myself here, guys!)
We live in a world where suicide, overdose, depression and self-medicating are running rampant. We are losing too many people to selfishness, because we don’t take the time out of our busy day to say, “how are you really feeling?” So what if it takes an extra 20 minutes out of my day? So what if I’m a little late to that bridal shower? So what if I don’t have advice for their situation? Isn’t their life worth it? If nothing else, I know how to pray and that’s more powerful than anything!
Some of us are barely getting out of bed every morning, our jobs are awful, our marriages are falling apart, our sin is taking over, we’re self-mediating, we’re crying ourselves to sleep at night and we have no friends, no mentors, no one we trust or feel we can talk to.
And what are you doing? I’m wandering through Walmart with my headphones in hoping that you don’t talk to me…
Romans 12:9-10 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
Romans 15:1-2 We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves. 2 Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. It’s not about us. It’s about God. And we have to be willing for God to use us at any time so everyone can see Him. Let’s try this:
“Hi, how are you?”
“Good, but, how are you really doing?”