Before you begin to read this blog you might want to get a bible handy so you can cross-reference anything you are more interested in studying.
• Stats on women and premarital sex – I decided to take out my findings on this topic because it was not fair to include female stats and no male stats.
• Stats on Men and premarital sex – I found no such stat, and I truly believe that there is no way to compare men to women. The point being made is that our culture is in a downward spiral in the area of decaying marital bliss. Although there are usually multiple issues contributing to the downfall of a marriage, most issues are brought into the marriage from each spouse’s past experiences.
• God created marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:22-25)
• God designed marriage to be a permanent union of “oneness” that is not to be broken (Genesis 2:23-24; Matthew 19:4-6)
• Marriage is a covenant (Malachi 2:14; Proverbs 2:17; Ecclesiastes 5:4)
• A marriage partnership is one in which the husband commits to ensuring his wife’s and children’s well-being (Exodus 21:10; Ephesians 5:28-29; 1 Timothy 5:8)
• A husband is accountable for his family’s well-being and conduct (Genesis 3:9; Ephesians 5:22-33; Colossians 3:18-21; 1 Peter 3:1-7)
• God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16)
• The Death of a spouse terminates the marriage covenant (Romans 7:1-3; 1 Corinthians 7:39)
The Vine Community Church believes cohabitation is not marriage.
What constitutes the legitimate ending of a marriage?
• The death of a spouse (1 Corinthians 7:39; Romans 7:2-4)
• Adultery (Deuteronomy 22:22)
• Non-Christian divorce. A Christian should not initiate divorce with a non-Christian but should live graciously with their spouse. If the non-Christian divorces them, however, they are free to re-marry (1 Corinthians 7:10-24).
Sexual sin includes – to have a romantic or sexual relations with a married man or woman who is not one’s lawful spouse. or illicit sexual intercourse, adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, incest, and pornography.
Should an innocent party remain single indefinitely?
It means they should remain single until every effort to reconcile has been made, under the supervision of the church leadership to help guard against impulsiveness (Proverbs 15:22; Hebrews 13:17)
If the offending spouse remarries, is there any obligation for me to remain single?
This is a matter of conscience as no further option is available to restore the marriage (Deuteronomy 24:3-4)
Can I remarry if I divorced my spouse just because we were incompatible?
NO. Work towards reconciliation, which means discovering what made you incompatible, and change (1 Corinthians 7:10)
What if I was divorced while a non-Christian?
While marriage is given for all humanity, non-Christians cannot be expected to obey God’s commands and Jesus died to forgive repentant sinners. Therefore, that person would be eligible to remarry a Christian, but only after every effort is made to restore the previous marriage through a reconciliation process.
I realize there are many complicated factors and variables in each marriage and one should always prayerfully and biblically seek wisdom to judge each case on its own merits in light of the clear direction of Scripture.
Let me close with this: God cares more about where He wants to take you than where you have been. God uses everyone with every background to do His work. Let us all strive in Unity to serve each other and this world through the Gospel of Christ.
Remember next Sunday we will be discussing our Jobs, and how we are to make the most of them for God. We will be in the passage 1 Corinthians 7:17-24.
I pray you have a great week. Please give feedback on your thoughts of these additional notes from Sunday’s sermon.