Ephesians 4:31 (ESV) Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.

Hebrews 12:15 (ESV) See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;

I received many questions concerning marriage throughout this series. One of the major problems I saw throughout all the questions was a problem with bitterness. This week in my Comm Group we had an extensive discussion on the topic of bitterness. I believe bitterness can rob you of so much joy in your life and in your marriage. There are biblical examples of bitterness that led people to ruin in their life, from Cain, King Saul, and others. Bitterness can take root in your thoughts and in your life with little or no help. But getting it out of your life can be a chore. Bitterness towards a spouse is especially dangerous to the intimacy of your relationship. It can break down trust, compassion, communication, and other things as well. Bitterness can steal everything good within a marriage if gone unchecked. My prayer for you is this. If you have bitterness towards your spouse find help, receive the help and find your joy again. If your spouse is bitter at you for something, APOLOGIZE AGAIN, pray for them and keep trying to reconnect. NEVER GIVE UP! Bitterness in a marriage takes root and grows very quickly in every area, it is like cancer in your body. If left alone it will eat at the very fabric of your life and leave you in the end holding nothing but regrets. This past Sunday we talked about change. One change that needs to be made in a marriage is to release the bitterness and get over it. To usher in true intimacy in your marriage you must have bitterness out of the picture. My prayer for The Vine Community Church is that each marriage within the church would be a Godly example of God’s perfect love.  I pray you have a great week.

Derek